As the new year with its new opportunities unfolds, are you ready to finally shed the mantle of responsibility, acceptability, respectability, lovability and simply allow yourself to be yourself in all your glory, unadulterated by the expectations and judgements of others?
Prepare for the year ahead by asking yourself, “Who am I truly?” “Whose truth am I speaking?” Get to know yourself as yourself, not by the personality you show to others. When you know who you are – perfectly imperfect and unique – make the commitment this year to be yourself courageously and be willing to release the need for approval from others or from feeling responsible to carry other people’s burdens.
Be prepared to gently let go of people and situations that do not support you to make way for those that do.
Refuse to be a pawn in anyone else’s games – it does not serve you nor them. Withdraw your emotional energy from other people’s dramas, refuse to accept their opinions of you, their criticism or emotional blackmail for you to behave, dress, live, work in a certain way.
Become consciously aware in every moment of your old programming, ask yourself why then choose to respond rather than react. The universal energies are supporting us all in this process now and karmic bonds are surfacing to be finalised. Timelines of past events are collapsing and you may find it difficult to remember events in sequence because everything’s shifting to make way for new opportunities for you to make new choices and create your new reality. Don’t fight it – simply go with it. If your brain can’t process it, run with the feelings. You can call on your willing team of spirit guides, guardians and helpers to assist you to do this, but prepare to be tested in your commitment to your own highest good until you truly believe you are good enough, strong enough, beautiful enough exactly as you are and that you are not responsible for other people’s dramas or their choices.
The process can be uncomfortable, challenging and as the past melts away, it can be quite taxing on your energy. Just move with it, follow what your body tells you to do. If you’re tired, rest. Your tastes in food may change, you may experience sudden aches and pains and bloating, sudden temporary weight gain or loss. There may be strange dreams. It can take time for the body to catch up with your shifting energy and you will have to deal with the emotions that at times take you completely by surprise, if only to acknowledge them as they surface and then just let them go. Try not to hold on to them, they belong to the past, but be aware of the little insights that arise for you.
Although consciously you may know what you need to let go of, and may be completely willing to do so, your feelings will still have to be felt. It can feel a bit like grieving, that’s what the process of letting go is like. There’ll quite likely be nostalgia, there may be denial, confusion, guilt, sadness, anger, a sense of loss, of regret – you may feel angry with yourself for not making changes earlier – but although it’s not easy it’s important to acknowledge that all you have experienced has been to teach you what you needed to learn. And remember that it wasn’t all bad. In time as you remember the challenges, you’ll be just as easily able to remember the good times too and be grateful for what each situation brought you. Just accept that it was what it was and now you can choose differently.
When you shed the layers of other people’s expectations – and your own sense of responsibility for others, you will feel lighter and more motivated to achieve your own goals, you may even set new ones. When you are comfortable with who you are, others will be comfortable too. When you accept yourself, others accept you too. When you respect yourself, others will respect you. When you love yourself unconditionally, others will love you too. You will find that people who are not able to accept the new (the real) you will simply drift out of your life to make way for new people to enter.
Underneath all those layers of conditioning is your own golden essence of light. Simply choose to be unashamedly and uniquely you and shine your light from deep within so that your kindred spirits can find you – they will be the ones who love and support you exactly as you are with no expectations. Imagine how free you will feel when you no longer have to worry about what people think of you – when you can simply just be yourself and set yourself free to live the life you choose for yourself.