Time to let go

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It is time to let go of your preconceived ideas of how things should be now, of how people should be, of how you should be, and just simply be. Accept who you are, accept others for who they are, accept that you are all human and you are all on a steep learning curve.

You rise, you fall, and you learn, you forget, you are strong, you weaken a little. Do you not know that this is all a part of the game of lie? It just is. Moment by moment, day by day, your life evolves. It is not static; it is not one straight line that you follow unerringly and without question, without at times becoming distracted, thrown off course. You trip and fall sometimes and then you get back up and begin again, a little wiser for the experience.

If you lose the notion of perfection and instead accept the perfection in the experiences that have and will continue to shape you, you will enjoy a much richer experience of life.

When others fall on their journey, do you leave them there, or do you step in to support them to rise again? Then why do you not do this for yourself? Why do you fight yourself every step of the way – berating yourself, feeling guilty or angry with yourself if you make a ‘mistake’? Have the grace to give the best of yourself to yourself as you do for others.

Take off the self-imposed pressure, release the self-imposed chains that bind you and accept that you are doing the best you can do in your current circumstances and that in this moment it is enough.

Most of all renew your faith that all is well although on the surface it may not appear to be so. When you look back on your current situation with the benefit of hindsight you will understand the hidden gifts. For now, simply accept that you are doing the best you can and let go of all expectation and replace it with hope, faith and trust and allow yourself to be guided.

Letting Go of the Tender Strong Ties that Bind

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When you become more uncomfortable where you are now than you are fearful of letting go, you are truly ready for change but before you can run you must walk. You must observe the opportunities that present along the path and make your choices accordingly. You must understand that the choices are made in each moment; it is not simply a one-off decision that means you absolve all responsibility for your life from this point on. You can choose to let go, to release your old habits, patterns, alliances, indeed your whole way of life if you wish, but how it happens is a moment by moment experience.

It is not simply that you say “I let go of…” and it instantaneously and permanently happens, because once you make that choice, set that intention, then you start the process of unravelling all of the threads, the connections to the experiences or feelings you are choosing to let go. Then moment by moment, as your awareness shows you what is still to be resolved, you make your choices, set your intentions, make your commitments to release and create anew. A day will come when you realise it is gone – that problem, that feeling you had that was troubling you over and over again is simply not there anymore.

When there is pain, recurring pain in the body, there is pain in the emotional body too. One cannot be without the other. Resolve the feelings, one by one, step by step, and your physical pain will also gradually minimise until it disappears completely. Do not worry that things are not healing, moving forward quickly enough, there is no set time for this. It will be when it will be, and that is when the issues that are currently troubling you have been experienced and dealt with from every angle and on every level. This is not something you can control, it is something you must allow without resistance, for when you resist you are holding on to your pain, exacerbating and intensifying your experience.

Let go and let God. Open to love. These are positive affirmations of your intention to create change, indeed to truly welcome change into your life, but be aware that you must exchange expectations for hope, control for surrender and judgement for acceptance and discernment. As your journey progresses there are times when your faith will be tested – this gives you the opportunity to choose again with a new level of awareness.

When you connect with your own inner being, your highest self, the God-source within you, the way will be lighted for you but you must walk your path alone. This does not mean that you will not have people in your life to support you, but you alone must make your choices and choose your way and there will be times when you may feel very alone as often when a new path is chosen, when the energy around you changes, people will drift away from you to create space for new people, situations and experiences to enter that better complement your new level of awareness and enhance your life.

During the transition from one phase to another, it can feel as though you are losing everything, you can feel lost, confused and lonely. Remember all is only temporary, it is only the clearing away you are experiencing in those moments in readiness for the new.

Most of all remember you are never alone. You have a team of guides and guardian angels who walk beside you, willing helpers to lovingly guide your choices and your footsteps. When your shadows appear, connect with your deepest feelings, your deepest fears and bring them into the light. In the light they have lost their power over you, for you see that really they are just a reflection after all. Ask yourself what is it you are afraid of, what are these burdens you are carrying. You may be surprised at the answers. For there you will find at the core the very reason for your experiences and the lessons you came here to learn.

We are here to learn to live in joy, to experience a balanced life, giving and receiving unconditional love and support and co-creating our reality in partnership with the God within.

So what do you choose for your life? Choose, let go, trust that in that moment it is beginning to unfold, have patience and faith. Let it be.


Written for Connect Magazine 150th edition

Heather Lee
Step into Healing
info@stepintohealing.com.au

Moment by moment…

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As you progress on your journey of life, you experience a whole gamut of emotions, at times a rollercoaster ride. When you choose to let go of all of the self- and other- imposed restrictions on your expression of self you begin to realise that you and only you are responsible for how you feel in any given moment.

It is a moment by moment choice, a moment by moment experience, a moment by moment opportunity. Your conscious awareness of how you are feeling and reacting or responding to each situation is paramount because through that response you are creating your reality, moment by moment.

When you are challenged, when you are hurt, when you are unsure or simply tired of the same old game, allow yourself to acknowledge the feeling. Name it, claim it and then choose to let it go. Let it fly away ready to welcome the next moment of awareness. If the feeling weighs heavily on you, ask yourself “What can I do to make myself feel better?” The answer may be simple or it may require a little planning. Either way, it will occupy your logical mind and provide a constructive outlet for the emotion that seeks to engulf you.

Know yourself and your needs. What does make you feel better? Do you need quiet time alone for reflection or do you need to talk it out? Do you need physical exercise or activities to release pent-up emotions? Ask yourself again “What do I need?” Accepting where you are now in this moment and acknowledging the feelings is the first step and the next step is letting it go through whatever means suits you and your circumstances. Take yourself mentally and physically if possible to a place where you can begin to feel better and ask for what you need.

You are where you are now, but every moment is fleeting and every moment will pass ready for the next moment. Nothing is permanent, this is a given. What can you do now to accept, experience and release this moment ready for the next?

Reach out for help or companionship when you need it, accept what is given with gratitude for this too is a gift for both the giver and the receiver.

There may be times when help is not available right in that moment and you may need to traverse that part of the journey alone. At times like these you must remember you are never alone and that your own team of spiritual helpers gather closer around you – ask for the help and look for the signs that you have been heard. Ask for signs that you will recognise to fortify your strength and your faith that behind the scenes all is as it should be and your wishes are being granted – in divine timing and for your highest good.

Every time you move from being engulfed by your emotions to being consciously aware of them, you are making momentous strides in your spiritual growth, although you may not be aware of it. And as you expand your energy, you also expand your powers of creation and manifestation.

Take heart. If you are open to it, you will be guided every step of the way.

All the World’s a Stage

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I recently sat with my coffee on a cool quiet Sunday morning to enjoy the sounds of nature when the following words started to flow, words that were unusual in their content compared to what I normally receive, but deeply profound. As you read them, I hope they bring you a sense of peace and understanding as they did for me that morning.

“All the world’s a stage and all the men and women upon it merely players”
Shakespeare

In the beginning was the word and the word was God and in the end will still be God and everything in between is of God, through God, in God and with God. It is only your human ego mind that knows separation. Even in your darkest moments God, the light, the source, your purest essence is with you because you are of God, you are God. You have merely to set aside your attachment to the physical form, the material world and you will know this. Do you know the difference between enjoying this world you have created and attachment to it?

When you understand that whatever you see with your physical eyes is as a stage set – it feels real to the touch, you can see it, you can move it, you can enjoy its beauty, its interesting shapes and colours and the play of light and shadows it is easier to understand. When you change the ‘set’, the background, the props, it becomes something entirely different, no less interesting or beautiful, just different. So if you wish to create a new reality, a new ‘set’, script a different play with a different set of colours you must let go of holding on to the old script, the old set and begin to write a new script, a new story.

What remains when you have decided to relegate the old set and the old script to the archives are the memories indelibly printed on the brain. At times they are vivid, when a smell, a sound, a sight reminds you, take you back to that time but then as quickly as it appears, it passes ready for the next moment, the next thought. This is as it should be. There is no point staying stuck in that moment, no more than staying stuck in the play that you are remembering. What is real is this moment, this very moment.

Moment by moment you experience your reality and moment by moment you choose to either write a new script, renew or refresh the existing script or to keep replaying the old one.

Nothing is permanent unless you choose to continue to recreate, replay the old patterns and scripts over and over again. If you choose to move into the new, embrace the new script and the new set, then the battle between your spirit, your higher ‘God self’ and the human ego mind begins in earnest and it is not until you have truly released all of the nuances of your ‘holding patterns’, that you have looked at all the shadows and brought light into those dark corners that you can simply walk away from the old set and into the new. Allow yourself the time and the grace to do this. Each of the shadows has many layers of emotion.

You are a complex character, with a long history of experience that contributes to the various acts of your play.

Whilst you are acting your part in your own play, there is no need for you to also play the parts of other characters – they have their own roles to play and they will create their own new set when they are ready. And you cannot rewrite their characters for your own play either; this would be interfering with the law of free will. You can only choose for yourself how your life, your ‘set’ will appear. You can help and support as actors do, but their roles are not yours to play for them. As you go about your daily business it is wise to remember this advice.

If you wish to release the physical discomfort in your body, then focus on releasing your own emotional pain and begin to imagine your new script and the role you will cast for yourself.

As you let go of the ‘props’ you have accumulated from past plays, send them with blessings which will of course be returned to you manyfold, and completely release them without regret. Keep only the memories in the archives, to enjoy them in occasional moments in years to come and truly and deeply embrace and enjoy your latest creation, your latest play. Go in peace and joy, you are almost ready for the new play, to write a new script and we your guides are beside you always to lend a hand, to support you in your choices, but the choices are yours alone.

Heather Lee
Step Into Healing
March 2019

Surrender to your soul

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Surrender to the will of God, the will of your higher self. Surrender to the river of life, allow the heart to bloom and surrender the walls within to God. Trust that you are safe.

Allow that which no longer serves you to flow away to usher in the new. Beauty awaits you in all its aspects. Take the time to go within and find your innermost being. Your soul is calling.

All resides within your heart, the key is there. Go within to open the door.

Release the tender bonds that hold you tight and allow the natural rhythm and flow of life. You are safe. All is well. Trust your inner knowing. Go deep within without fear. The answers are there. You are safe, your guardian angels and your guides are with you all the way.

Surrender, Release and Shine

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As the new year with its new opportunities unfolds, are you ready to finally shed the mantle of responsibility, acceptability, respectability, lovability and simply allow yourself to be yourself in all your glory, unadulterated by the expectations and judgements of others?

Prepare for the year ahead by asking yourself, “Who am I truly?” “Whose truth am I speaking?” Get to know yourself as yourself, not by the personality you show to others.  When you know who you are – perfectly imperfect and unique – make the commitment this year to be yourself courageously and be willing to release the need for approval from others or from feeling responsible to carry other people’s burdens.

Be prepared to gently let go of people and situations that do not support you to make way for those that do.

Refuse to be a pawn in anyone else’s games – it does not serve you nor them. Withdraw your emotional energy from other people’s dramas, refuse to accept their opinions of you, their criticism or emotional blackmail for you to behave, dress, live, work in a certain way.

Become consciously aware in every moment of your old programming, ask yourself why then choose to respond rather than react. The universal energies are supporting us all in this process now and karmic bonds are surfacing to be finalised. Timelines of past events are collapsing and you may find it difficult to remember events in sequence because everything’s shifting to make way for new opportunities for you to make new choices and create your new reality. Don’t fight it – simply go with it. If your brain can’t process it, run with the feelings. You can call on your willing team of spirit guides, guardians and helpers to assist you to do this, but prepare to be tested in your commitment to your own highest good until you truly believe you are good enough, strong enough, beautiful enough exactly as you are and that you are not responsible for other people’s dramas or their choices.

The process can be uncomfortable, challenging and as the past melts away, it can be quite taxing on your energy. Just move with it, follow what your body tells you to do. If you’re tired, rest. Your tastes in food may change, you may experience sudden aches and pains and bloating, sudden temporary weight gain or loss. There may be strange dreams. It can take time for the body to catch up with your shifting energy and you will have to deal with the emotions that at times take you completely by surprise, if only to acknowledge them as they surface and then just let them go. Try not to hold on to them, they belong to the past, but be aware of the little insights that arise for you.

Although consciously you may know what you need to let go of, and may be completely willing to do so, your feelings will still have to be felt. It can feel a bit like grieving, that’s what the process of letting go is like. There’ll quite likely be nostalgia, there may be denial, confusion, guilt, sadness, anger, a sense of loss, of regret – you may feel angry with yourself for not making changes earlier – but although it’s not easy it’s important to acknowledge that all you have experienced has been to teach you what you needed to learn. And remember that it wasn’t all bad. In time as you remember the challenges, you’ll be just as easily able to remember the good times too and be grateful for what each situation brought you.  Just accept that it was what it was and now you can choose differently.

When you shed the layers of other people’s expectations – and your own sense of responsibility for others, you will feel lighter and more motivated to achieve your own goals, you may even set new ones. When you are comfortable with who you are, others will be comfortable too. When you accept yourself, others accept you too. When you respect yourself, others will respect you. When you love yourself unconditionally, others will love you too. You will find that people who are not able to accept the new (the real) you will simply drift out of your life to make way for new people to enter.

Underneath all those layers of conditioning is your own golden essence of light.  Simply choose to be unashamedly and uniquely you and shine your light from deep within so that your kindred spirits can find you – they will be the ones who love and support you exactly as you are with no expectations. Imagine how free you will feel when you no longer have to worry about what people think of you – when you can simply just be yourself and set yourself free to live the life you choose for yourself.

Finding Your Voice

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Everyone has their own unique story to tell. I’ve been privileged in recent times to meet many new people from wide ranging backgrounds and walks of life. Through these interactions, I’ve been reflecting on how until you begin to speak with someone you really have no idea of their story.

Each of us finds our voice in different ways. For some it’s through singing or playing an instrument, for some through writing stories or poetry. For others it’s expressed in arts and craft, acting in a play, or dance. And there are those who choose to join public speaking clubs or volunteer to MC or host an event. It doesn’t matter what you do, as long as you enjoy it. Each outlet or activity is a means of expressing your innermost self, a way of allowing yourself to be seen and heard.

Then there are those who quietly go about their days gently offering kind words of support or encouragement to others who need it. For some it means plucking up the courage to simply say “no” or to ask for what they want.

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When your truth is expressed from the heart, even if you’re finally taking the plunge and standing up for yourself, your words or your actions will be expressed graciously, with respect. If you do not feel brave enough to tell your truth, you can pray or ask for help to find the right words at the right time. You will receive an answer if you are willing to open your heart to hear.

Whatever it is for you and however you express it, your soul longs to be heard. When you do find your inner voice, it comes from the heart – openly, authentically, joyfully, unconditionally and in each moment when you express your true self there is a message meant for someone, a message of hope, of joy, of love.

There are times when I am called upon to write a post ‘right now, in this moment’. Those are the times I know someone needs to hear the words that are given to me on that day, so please feel free to share them.

Your voice deserves to be heard, you have a special message to share and you are here for a reason, you are here to shine your light.

Start with Yourself

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As we enter the festive season once again we meet loved ones we haven’t connected with for a while. Why is it that during these joyous celebrations old wounds or conflicts sometimes surface?

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We come to this life with lessons to learn and the people in our lives are here to help us learn those lessons. The lessons often bring heartache, until that moment of insight followed by understanding of what lies beneath the surface of our relationships and what they teach us.

Are you still struggling and striving to work within the energies of old pain to fix it and create the new? This is not the way. You must be truly and completely healed of past hurts before you are really ready to step into the new. Understand that this is a process – until you are ready to let go you’ll continue to chip away at old pain, unmet expectations, disappointments, regrets and resentments.

Start with yourself. Begin with willingness to forgive yourself for being in situations that ultimately led to pain because your actions and choices, innocent though they may have been, caused you to be in that place at that time with those persons. Then understand that without the benefit of hindsight you could never have made different choices. Everything you’ve experienced brought lessons to yourself and the other parties, whether or not any of you were aware of it. And it likely all played out as agreed in your soul contracts. It is no accident that you have encountered these people (and animals) in your close relationships in this life for you had already agreed this.

Whatever has happened and whatever pain you’ve experienced, its presence in your life was an opportunity to experience it from another perspective, to grow and learn from it. Perhaps in a previous encounter roles were reversed and it was you that caused pain to another. Universal law dictates that justice will be served. This means that what you have done to another will be done to you. There is no judgement in universal law, only justice.

This is why it is important for you to understand that you must forgive yourself first. In doing this, it releases all parties to the soul contract to move on with their own journey free of the past.

It is also important to consider the influence of unmet expectations. Every journey with another soul starts with joy, hope and the promise of things to come. We see in the other the opportunity to create a new life, we look to that person as the key to our happiness, the brave new world we dare to hope for. But in doing this we fail to realise we are placing the burden of responsibility on that person – partner, child, parent, sibling or friend, to ‘make us happy’. And we all start out trying to be what we believe others want us to be, eager to please. But in the end it doesn’t work because we can’t sustain it. Resentments begin to surface. And were we really seeing that person in their entirety? Did we really ‘see’ them and accept them exactly as they are, or were we looking with rose-coloured glasses, only seeing what we wanted to see? Perhaps we thought we could ‘fix’ them and it was our job to do so. Were our expectations realistic, now that with hindsight we can see the whole picture, the real person? It is important to consider this. In all honesty you may well find your expectations could never have been met. Your instinct told you many times, there were signs along the way, opportunities to change tack but in operating from the original unrealistic expectations, there could never have been any other outcome than unmet expectations, disappointment and regret.

It is only in releasing the unhealthy expectations of what others can give us, allowing them their own journey, their choices, free will, that we can truly set ourselves free to move into a new self-directed reality created from a healthy understanding of our own self, our needs, values and dreams, operating from a strong sense of unconditional love for the self and others with strong boundaries in place.

As you begin to know and understand yourself on a deeper level, you’ll either grow together or grow apart to make way for new relationships that resonate at your level. It depends on each soul’s level of development and willingness to unconditionally accept the other as the growth takes place. Sometimes having navigated the chaos of growth, the relationship strengthens. Sometimes people just drift out of your life.

True joy does not come from another. There is no-one else in your ‘tribe’ who can make you happy. Only you can do that by finding the way back to your true self by knowing who you are, what you stand for and what brings you deep joy and fulfilment. There is no other way. The journey can be challenging but worth it because you will be attracting healthier relationships with people who love and accept you exactly as you are.

Heather Lee
Step Into Healing
(Published in Connect Magazine December 2018/January 2019 edition)

 

Reflections as we approach the season of giving

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As we approach the season of giving, I wanted to share this message from my own guides about value. With the best of intentions and much love in their heart, people often spend more than they can comfortably afford at this time of year and spend the rest of the year catching up, only to start again for the next Christmas.
In the past when working in the corporate world, I have been fortunate enough to be able to donate on a regular basis to various charities that I wanted to support. I had the money but I didn’t have the time. Circumstances have changed and now I can’t comfortably donate in the way I did before and I now give my time freely to a number of charities and am receiving so much fulfilment from it, more than that, joy.
However I still feel the need to donate from time to time. This is what I was told.
“Money is energy which is currency, time given freely is currency. It all has the same effect and the same value. It is how you feel about it that matters. When given freely from the heart with love, when received graciously with gratitude, it is valuable beyond measure and circulates in the stratosphere generating more of the same. Do not give if you cannot comfortably and graciously give – it is worthless – and if you cannot receive openly, graciously with gratitude in your heart you are denying yourself and the giver the gift of positive benefits.
Everything, everything, without exception has energy, every thought word and deed has energy. It is very important now to make sure you use that energy wisely, thoughfully and graciously. It is time you understood that as truth.”
Perhaps you can find a balance this year between giving financially and giving your time, and I hope it brings you much joy. Wishing you peace, joy and harmony throughout this Christmas season.

ReaCtivity or cReativity?

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Creating Peace in Your World

As you tire of the same old struggles, you begin to let go of the concept that you are in control. Control is an illusion that binds you to a set way of thinking and reacting. It blocks creativity and free expression causing physical discomfort and dis-ease in your body.

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What if you were to simply accept in any given moment the experience you are having and allow yourself to be open to the guidance that comes from your heart, not your head? One step at a time, one moment at a time, you create your reality. Whatever you are feeling, whatever is coming up for you, simply accept in that moment that it is what it is. Be at peace within your heart in that moment, Take a deep breath, release pent-up energy and let go. In that moment of peace and clarity you become aware of what triggers your responses and you can choose to respond differently, rather than automatically reacting. This is what it means to allow your heart, not your head to lead the way.

You can use your logical, analytical mind to manage the logistics of choices you have made with your heart. When you are out of alignment with your highest self which resides in the heart you can never be at peace.

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It is true you may find some level of existence where you can pretend to yourself and others that you are happy and satisfied with your life. You can go on living and existing in a fantasy you have created around yourself that this is good enough, that you can go on as you are, never asking for nor expecting more. This may well work for you until some unexpected event comes along to throw you off course, to destabilise the world you have built up around yourself. In the Tarot it presents as “The Tower”, where the false foundations on which you have built your life crumble away and you’re forced to rebuild on a firmer foundation. And so the journey begins again to find your authentic self, to build an authentic life where you are free to express yourself without fear of judgement, where you are free to express yourself, to follow pursuits that bring deep fulfilment and joy to your heart, where you can find the passion, the spark within and lead you to your mission, your purpose and to the deep peace within.

Peace comes from being in tune with your own inner guidance which comes from the heart. If you wish to experience a peaceful reality, you must create peace within yourself first. The people who truly love and accept you will honour your authentic expression of self, the rest will simply drift away to create space for those who do support and accept you as you truly are.

Do you ever stop to ask yourself “Am I ok with living like this for the rest of my life?” “Where is the joy in my life?” “Will I ever get off the treadmill?” It all starts with acknowledgement of the inner yearning followed by consistent small steps towards creating joyful moments in your life, with care for the self so you can care for others and still have something left for you.

There are many events surfacing on the Earth that could easily throw you off course into negativity, anger, judgement and hatred. Again, if you wish to see peace in your world, let it begin inside of you and rather than judgement and anger, send blessings and love to the situation and the people involved, and then let it go. Each has chosen their own journey at this time and each must be allowed to learn their own lessons, settle their own karmic debts and make their own choices without interference. If you are asked for help, of course you may help whilst respecting your own boundaries but if you have not been asked for help or your offer of help is rejected, then you must respect this and step back. You cannot interfere with another’s free will. This will be challenging at times, but it must be so. Continue to be consciously aware of when you are taking on responsibility for another’s journey, send blessings and love and let it go. You must find the peace in your own heart to create a better world around you.

There are those who came with a mission to stir things up, bring to the surface the injustices and cruelty. They came prepared and equipped to do this and they are stepping up now. Send them love and leave them to their mission. What if your mission is to be a beacon of light, of hope, of understanding and tolerance, a living symbol of peace to guide others to their own light?

Be the peace you wish to create, be a role model for living an authentic heartfelt life and allow others to their own journeys. Universal justice will be served, wrongs will be righted, it can be no other way. It is the natural order of things and it will simply happen in the right time, space and circumstance for the highest good of all.

Peace begins with you and flows out to all that cross your path when you are a living example of self-acceptance, self-love and authenticity. It inspires others to do the same and incrementally it grows. Feelings follow actions, so begin today to choose something that will bring you joy and joy will surely follow, along with a feeling of peace that in that moment all is well in your world.

Published in the August/September 2018 edition of Connect Magazine

Heather Lee
Healing Practitioner, Cairns

info@stepintohealing.com.au
www.stepintohealing.com.au